Spending time in isolation and self-reflection will force you to realize the only person holding you back from being the person you want to become is you! As someone who loves to talk and will chat a person's ear off about their dreams and aspirations, I have realized the common denominator in all things I have set to accomplish and succeed are three steps: write your goals down, make a detailed plan, and execute. While this may be easier said than done, it is just that simple. Some goals require you to rewrite, make a new plan, and execute it differently. However, the process remains the same.
In the year 2024, I have been holding myself accountable by using these three steps.
2024 marks a transition year, the last year of being broke, the final year pursuing my PhD,
and the last year of feeling sorry for myself.
While pursuing my PhD, I often struggle with finances, finding a healthy work/life balance, confidence, and overall happiness. Unfortunately, as a PhD student, these are issues that you agree to endure until you have successfully finished your degree. Due to this, I decided to take a break from creating content because I've realized that making videos about my PhD journey caused me to relive and remember all of the things that I am unhappy with in this current chapter. Feeling sorry for myself changes nothing and ultimately distracts me from finishing strong. This season of my journey is about focusing on executing my way out and dreaming about what's next. Something that has kept me sane is understanding that everything has a season and a reason. This chapter of your life is now, but it is not forever.
This chapter is about finding peace in the chaos and learning to distract yourself by doing things you've always wanted but never dared to do. In 2024, I have been going to the gym routinely by myself, investing in my creativity, sewing my first garment, removing "friends" I saw no value in, setting boundaries, finding love, and most importantly, protecting my peace of mind.
You can't control everyone else, but you damn sure can control what you consume, so I did just that! I took a break from posting content, unfollowed everyone on Instagram, and decided to only follow creators who spark my creativity and facilitate positive vibes. The content you consume can directly impact how you see yourself, and nothing gets done when you are unhappy, comparing yourself to others, and with a long list of excuses.
The Ugly Truth is you have to put your big girl panties on,
pull yourself up by the bootstraps, and stop feeling sorry for yourself. Your future self is counting on it.
XOXO
-TheBlackReproToxGirl
